Madame Bubby Is Damn Mad: Ageism in the Gay Community

Madame Bubby Is Damn Mad: Ageism in the Gay Community

Recently posted on craigslist, missed connections: 

Thursday night it was the backyard at Manhandler. You were sucking guys off with your shirt off. You smoked a lot. That's nasty by the way. You seemed to be in my proximity or in my face the whole time I was there. You were inside fucking with your tired little cell phone (probably seeking even more cum from the web) and I got a good look at your face in the light. No wonder you lurk around dark sex venues. You are at least 55, maybe 60, wrinkled, fugly, and that Sean Hayes hairstyle has GOT to go. Please, do us all a favor, and take the summer off from sex. Don't come to water sports parties or bear naked or anything else. Stay home, or whatever the fuck. And the next time you try to elbow your way into the middle of my sex with someone, I'm going to give you a swift kick into your dried up decayed little balls. You know who you are, the one who looks like Jack from Will and Grace, and wears that ridiculous half-lopsided little harness thing sometimes. Go pickle yourself, hon. 
 

Manhandler Saloon

Reply to the above: OMG I know exactly who you're describing. He is everywhere!!!! And so rude and will try to horn in on your action. He needs to stay home for about 20 years until sex no longer matters lol. 

I am damn mad. I understand the poster's need to vent on one level, but I actually felt sorry for the person this individual was complaining about. 

I wasn't surprised by the poster's crass materialism (”tired little cellphone”) and of course, obviously, the insults about the person's age and physical appearance. Such unabated viciousness seems to be common these days in a culture of narcissism and entitlement. 

And let's face it: these have always been problems with ageism in the gay community, as well as the rampant discrimination against those who don't possess an ideally perfect youthful body. Even in vintage Hollywood, an actress over 35 was over the hill. 

And the prejudice against age and those who don't match up to certain physical standards has escalated in a world where sex is available on a phone app, bodies can be photoshopped, and Kim Kardashian is a role model. 
 

Gay body issues

 

Regarding the reason for the vent, I do understand the etiquette about not “horning” in on public sex scenes, but rather than posting something so hurtful anonymously (the coward's way out), how about speaking kindly to the person and perhaps explaining the etiquette, for a start? 

(But then, in the middle of a circle jerk, counseling might not come to mind.)
Hairy stomach face circle of hell


As I said above, I feel deeply sorry for this person who was the target of such vitriol. Loneliness … sexual addiction … who knows what drives this person to behave this way? I think his fate is the fate of so many unattached older gay men, many of whom don't know how to develop relationships (or, even more sadly, they could be lonely survivors of the AIDS epidemic of the eighties) because their only exposure to gay life was “dark sex venues,” which before today's environment of acceptance, were often the only places a gay person could connect? 
 

And finally, to the person who posted this: Who are you to judge? You also seem to frequent these “dark sex venues.” I don't think I would be wrong in predicting that you will be that person in about twenty years. Karma's a bitch, bitch! 

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God Loves Beefcake!

God Loves Beefcake!

GOD LOVES BEEFCAKE!

posted by Madame Bubby

 

You are sitting with your family at Easter, watching The Ten Commandments. You will notice that it's so very G-rated, so very Hollywood semi-Bible-based Inspirational. There is no question that Mother Angelica and Pat Robertson would heartily endorse this movie.

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Out of Control: How to Stop Those Vicious Victorian Masturbators

Out of Control: How to Stop Those Vicious Victorian Masturbators

Out of Control:
How to Stop Those Vicious Victorian Masturbators

by
Nurse Puppy
Guest Blogger

 

It was the height of the Victorian era and all was not well,

Because the prisoners were all jerking off in their cells,
Self-degradation, addiction, and unnatural vice,
Don't jailbirds know that those things are not nice?
The situation had gotten way out of control,
It seemed like every convict was shining his pole.
Then, what to our wond'ring eyes did appear?
Lo, an invention to protect the good people from fear.
Bind up those organs! Lock them up tight!
Let's put an end to this terrible blight.
And so the good people could then find some peace,
Knowing that prison masturbation had finally ceased.

 

Thanks to Daniel P. Cook of Hartford, Connecticut, the American public would no longer need to worry about what was occurring behind the walls of prisons and reform schools. On June 14, 1870, Mr. Cook received a patent for a “Self-Protector” to ensure that criminals and juvenile delinquents would no longer be able to touch themselves. 

 

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Finally, on TLC's Strange Sex Series, Macrophilia!

Finally, on TLC's Strange Sex Series, Macrophilia!

I was watching TLC Strange Sex; Matt on the TLC series gets turned on by giantesses destroying a city and crushing him. He was so excited that he got a part in a giantess video. His friend can't understand the nature of this fantasy fetish, macrophilia (meaning love of the large, love of size), asking the usual question: how can one actually incorporate this fetish into actual sex, into an actual relationship? What's the scoop with this one, and is there a gay counterpart?

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What Are You Doing In There With That Magazine?

What Are You Doing In There With That Magazine?

 It's confession time this week! 


Does anyone remember going into the bathroom with a magazine and “doing the nasty” or “wanking off” when you lived at home? 

Or maybe you just were able to close your bedroom door and lock it from the inside? 

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